The whole point of this is not to indict parents, or women. And yes, we men need to recognize that we’re bigger and stronger and need to be careful about that.

What we need to dispel is the cultural stereotypes. Women are every bit as prone to violence as men are, and these days the culture tends to view violent women as funny or as innocent victims. We need to stop that crap. It’s not funny and it’s not acceptable.

“She’s just a girl” is not a defense.

Funny thing is, at one time this would have been considered the feminist viewpoint. I’d argue that it still is.

From my own perspective, my oldest is 9 and I’ve spanked him a handful of times in his entire life. Once, it was too much and I regretted it, but the message got through. My youngest is 2 and I’ve slapped his hand a couple of times.

Punching, kicking, scratching, burning with a cigarette, or spanking enough to leave welts–that’s child abuse in my view.

The 2005 document put out by the NCADV with federal funding to suggest themes for Domestic Violence Awareness Month is entitled, Action for Social Change. For 111 pages, this PDF goes on about things like the language used to talk about the issues, finding new groups of victims to claim, and items such as graphic diagrams of the special ways handicapped and elderly women, even babies are victimized. There are sources cited that once again blame men and the “patriarchy” for the continuing oppression of women.

One article is entitled, Social Change to End Violence Against Women (or to Reclaim Women’s Sovereignty) The title says it all. This is the first time we’ve seen a publicly-available document that alludes to the truth behind this movement.

It just isn’t right Dean.

Does that make mothers bad? No it certaintly does not. It makes them adults capable of making adult decisions. Including, sometimes, bad decisions. And sometimes, correct decisions.

I just grow tired of the conspiring between liberals and conservatives to deny all of this.

Women commit the vast majority of violent child abuse. Deal with it. It’s reality.

Most child sexual abuse is at the hands of men. It just is.

Violent child abuse, on the other hand? Including murder of children? Mostly at the hands of women.

Make of it what you will. You won’t see it on the nightly news.

Maggie: Well I’ve linked multiple sources. Have you read them? Let me quote one again:

According to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System’s most current report, Child Maltreatment 2005, of the approximately 899,000 child abuse and neglect victims in 2005, the largest percentage of perpetrators (79.4 percent) were parents, including birth parents, adoptive parents, and stepparents. Other relatives accounted for an additional 6.8 percent, residential staff for 0 .2 percent, and daycare providers for 0.6 percent. Unmarried partners of parents accounted for 3.8 percent of perpetrators while foster parent accounted for 0.5 percent of perpetrators.

Let me repeat: unmarried partners of parents accounted for 3.8 percent. And 79.4% are the parents. Which means that step-parents/live-in boyfriends and girlfriends are mostly not the problem. But parents are.

And daycare providers and live-in nannies and such are statistically very small contributors.

So who are the major contributors, given that women are the majority by a 20-point statistical margin?

You know, I get tired of being told that men are bigger than women, and have things like testosterone and testicles and whatnot, by people who refuse to acknowledge that women are bigger than children. Especially when study after study demonstrates that women are every bit as violent as men. Just not as likely to do injury to the men since the men are bigger and stronger than the women. But way likely to be able to whip the shit out of a little boy or girl.

The women are bigger and stronger than the children most of the time.

Most violent child abuse is committed by women. This has been known to social scientists for more than 30 years. Make of it what you will.

Read this.