I’ve long criticized the Single Motherhood by Choice movement for ignoring the importance of fathers and the two-parent family. Now singer Ricky Martin has decided to have motherless children. From Ricky Martin Father of Twin Boys Via Surrogate Mother (Associated Press, 8/20/08):
There won’t be much “livin’ la vida loca” for Ricky Martin these days — he’s now the father of twin boys.
The Latin superstar had the children via a surrogate mother, and the babies were born a few weeks ago, according to a statement from his representatives.
“The children, delivered via gestational surrogacy, are healthy and already under Ricky’s full-time care,” said the statement. “Ricky is elated to begin this new chapter in his life as a parent and will be spending the remainder of the year out of the public spotlight in order to spend time with his children.”
A representative said there was no further information on the details of the children’s birth.
Martin, 36, is a multiplatinum singer who is best known for English-language hits like “She Bangs!” and “Livin’ la Vida Loca.” In recent years, the Puerto Rican star has been active in charitable efforts, including the prevention of sexual exploitation of children.
It is nice to see a father being portrayed positively, as Martin is. And I can certainly understand his hesitance to have children through marriage, since the mother could divorce him and push him to the margins of his children’s lives on her whim. Nevertheless, children need mothers just like they need fathers, and the two-parent family is what’s best for kids.
I disagree with Martin’s decision–children need both a mother and a father. There has been wide speculation that Martin is gay, which he denies. If he is gay, that changes the issue a bit.
Martin says, “I love women and sex. I am a real hot-blooded Puerto Rican, but have never been attracted by sex with a man.”
To learn more about the problems with the Single Motherhood by Choice movement, see:
1) My co-authored column Are Single Mothers the ‘New American Family?’ (World Net Daily, 9/28/06)
2) My debate on Fox’s nationally-syndicated Morning Show with Mike and Juliet — to watch, click here.
3) My co-authored column Why Dads Matter (Houston Chronicle, 6/18/06)
4) My column Raising Boys Without Men: Lesbian Parents Good, Dads Bad (World Net Daily, 9/10/05)
Glenn Sacks, www.GlennSacks.com
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I watched the Fox video and all I head from the woman that impregnated herself say was, "I, I, I, Me, Me, Me."Â Her first impulse was to sate her own needs, not thinking about what the child needs.
The first act of parenthood is thinking about the needs of the child before they are even conceived. That wasn’t in this woman’s mind.
Sometimes the greatest act of parenthood is deciding you can’t give what a child needs and you don’t create one.
As for the women not being able to find men to spend their lives with as they get older, does it not occur to them that it might be something wrong with them?
Listening to the blond host, I wanted to hit her. “Don’t you think I want a man and be happy but I don’t want to settle!” Why didn’t you tell her, “How’s that not settling bit working out for you?”
This only goes to show women are as superficial as men have always been painted to be.
A relationship is about settling. And settling isn’t a bad thing because, frankly, what we think we need isn’t what we need at all.
My God… what a bunch of self-centered, self-righteous hags.
I believe 100% that he is gay, and that this is the way for him to have children. His cousin, who is also gay, adopted a baby from Russia and is raising her together with her girlfriend/partner.
However, I do agree that BOTH parents play an important role in a childs life.
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