Because nobody cares about men and boys

*Update*: If you’re reading this it’s probably because Arthur Goldwag linked you here. Since Goldwag and his cronies at SPLC routinely mass-censor comments that challenge their prejudices, extensively documented here, I thought I’d add an update here.  Everything I predicted in the below essay happened. All of it. Also, I was one of the people who knew Earl Silverman, which of course Goldwag doesn’t bother to tell you.  He also refers to me as “Another MRA” without acknowledging that I’m part of A Voice for Men.  Other people at A Voice for Men knew Earl much better, like Karen Straughan, and especially Dan Perrins who was particularly close to Earl. What Goldwag also won’t tell you is that we promoted Earl’s shelter multiple times, tried to help him raise money, and also celebrated his accomplishments when he had them. And what he won’t tell you is that Earl suicided explicitly because of the mass indifference to the suffering of men and boys in Canada, to the paltry support he got (we are a tiny desperately underfunded movement; we could probably open 20 shelters probably with what Goldwag personally makes in a year, and hundreds of shelters with the resources SPLC has at its command). Nor does he mention the fact that Earl went financially broke from lack of assistance from his own government or from any charitable endowments anywhere in his country, despite running the only men’s shelter anywhere in that country at the time.  Nor does he mention the online cyber-bullying by feminists that helped drive Earl’s suicide. Arthur wouldn’t tell you about those things  because he doesn’t care about the poor, the abused, the suffering, and the marginalized, he just wants to keep painting a phony narrative about our supposed “hate” and now, astonishingly, “exploitation.”

In other 20 years Earl got a grand total of $1,000 from his government to help run his shelter. A thousand dollars Arthur? A thousand dollars? Really?

Tell you what Arthur, I’ll trade what I get paid for my activism for one year over your paycheck for one month. Then we’ll talk about who’s exploiting who exactly.

Arthur Goldwag, you have made the SPLC into something that actively works to marginalize the poor, the abused, and the disenfranchised. You are a disgrace.

My original essay, which Goldwag linked to, is below. And I repeat: everything I said in it came to pass. And is still going on apparently, thanks to Aruthur Goldwag and the SPLC.

*Update 2*: Oh, be sure to read our expose of the SPLC by a former SPLC fundraiser. Hey how much money to you make personally by exploiting underfunded human rights activists by funding a phony narrative about “misogyny,” Arthur? Care to answer that question?

Earl Silverman, founder of the only abused men’s shelter in all of Canada, has killed himself. After 20 years of fighting for the forgotten, the overlooked, the marginalized, and the sneered at, he closed his shelter due to lack of resources, and today closed out his life, because no one gives a damn about men and boys.

The last I spoke to him, he’d just managed to get some mainstream media attention in the face of the sneering feminist media whore lawyer there to “debate” him and who tried his best to minimize anything Earl had to say. Earl did great, but still, nobody cared enough to do anything. He privately outlined a strategy for me for finally getting someone in the government to pay attention, after decades of futility, and I didn’t think it would work. I tried to be encouraging and supportive, but I probably wasn’t encouraging enough.

Today he hung himself and I’m pingponging between crying and shrieking rage.

If you’re a male, you’re disposable motherf*****r. If you’re abused, it’s your fault. If you’re poor, it’s your fault. If you’re out of a job, it’s your fault. If you’re desperate, it’s your fault. You’re “privileged,” don’t you know.

I cheerfully await the feminists who will be dancing on his grave and/or giving their usual stupid bullcrap song and dance about how what caused the indifference was their phantasmagoric lie of “The Patriarchy” or “toxic masculinity” when they’ve lifted not a god damned finger for 40 years to help men and boys and spread lie after lie about how most of the victims of abuse are women and hardly any are men. I also look forward to the conservative traditionalists shaking their heads and looking the other way, just like the hypocritical jerks who say nice things about manhood but don’t actually do a god damned thing for men and boys that most of them are.

If you’re male in this society, you are a disposable utility, and that’s all you are. Earl recognized it, tried to do something about it, and finally gave up.

And here’s my prediction: almost no one in the mainstream media will bother writing one word about this. Because Earl was a man, and nobody cares about men and boys.

  • http://www.jaeddy.com John Eddy

    Though my brother lacks your passion, he is very much aware of the problems faced by Men and Boys in this culture. You may find his latest post worth reading, and may even want to see if he is interested in getting more involved.

  • http://www.deanesmay.com Dean Esmay

    He quit, because nobody gave a shit.

  • danipettas

    Pretty terrible news.

  • Ruth H

    Well, if I weren’t an elderly lady who doesn’t use such language I would say, “that sucks.” My sincere condolences to you and the rest of the world. We really did need him.

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