Category Archives: Gender Issues

Meet the female paedophile

The only criticism I have of this video is the suggestion that female molesters primarily use objects. We don’t even think about vaginas being useful this way, although of course they are. Or the myriad other ways women may sexually assault without having a penis or needing an object.

My experience in talking about these things is virtually identical to what James Landrith and others have described: laughing, scoffing, shaming, denial, name-calling, blistering anger, and so on. I’ve even, oddly enough, been accused of being “just as bad as the radical feminists” for saying that women are considerably more likely to be sexual predators than most people believe, no matter what evidence I produce. How is it being woman-hating to note the simple fact that women are almost as likely to offend in this area as men are?

Is it coded in our genes to believe women aren’t sexually dangerous? Perhaps. But as Michele Elliot says here, we didn’t used to fear men and assume women innocent quite so quickly in generations past as we do now. We’ve gone backwards, not forwards, on the subject of sexual assault and abuse.

Damsel In Distress!

Adria Richards is an embarrassment to all women, but most especially women in technology. The only thing “sexist” about this entire affair was Richards’ appalling and grossly unprofessional behavior. I usually don’t wish anyone to be fired from their job but I frankly hope she never works in IT again. At least, not unless she unreservedly apologizes and takes 100% ownership of her own deplorable behavior.

Is that likely? I doubt it. Since she’s a woman, Female Privilege will likely assert itself, and White Knights will rush to her defense. She probably could have shot these guys dead and people would be defending her, the situation has gotten so bad here in America. If this was what most women were like, I would declare myself a misogynist and would probably favor laws banning women from the workplace because it would make it inarguable that they are unfit and incapable of functioning like adults. Fortunately, I know better: most women aren’t like this. But shame on her, shame on those treating her like a damsel in distress rather than the total jackass she is, and shame on the misogynists who call themselves “feminists” who think her actions were in any way appropriate or who are condemning those of us who call BS on her BS behavior.

If she were an adult and a professional she would apologize sincerely. And I mean for all of it, every single bit of it, every single action and word she took on this entire affair, and accept 100% responsibility. Furthermore, she and any woman with any self-respect ought to condemn the “Ada Initiative code of conduct,” which is an obscenity.

Women: make a choice. Did you want equality or did you want a world that bends to your sensitivities and keeps a fainting couch handy any time you happen to randomly feel the need for it? Are you functioning adults or pearl-clutching ninnies? Enough of this crap. If you want to be treated like an equal adult, start acting like it. Otherwise, seriously, stop pretending you want to be treated like an equal, because you’re obviously just a privileged over-entitled brat demanding special privileges and special treatment.

Anything further I have to say, Janet Bloomfield says it better. I could just write “what she said” and leave it there. I probably will.

*Update*: Like or hate their tactics, I think this outright assault on the geek community is getting unsurprising results. Like hypocritical damsel in distress Anita Sarkeesian, this is an example of people who think they can act like bullies just because they’re women, then hypocritically complain about sexism.

*Update 2: Can we get Amy Poehler fired?

I’m just kidding, I ADORE Amy Poehler. But the social double standards are astounding.

The Female Stalker

The female stalker: she’s become a joke in our current culture. And let me say in advance, I find the below video screamingly funny, in fact I nearly peed myself laughing watching this. I am a huge fan of this girl. You can subscribe to her channel right here. I’ve been a fan of hers since she first hit the scene. Anyway, the funny video:

Now, again, this is funny. I am not attacking it.

However, it’s fascinating, isn’t it, that it would not be funny at all if she were a dude. Now, why? I submit that it’s because culturally, we believe men are violent, predatory, and dangerous and need to be tamed, whereas, we believe women are frail and weak and pretty much by definition are not-dangerous. I think there may even be something biological about it, based on something called “neoteny.” I remember introducing Karen Straughan to the term and she did a long video on it which you may enjoy, but in short, neoteny is the retention of childlike physical traits into adulthood. Human females are more neotenous than human males on average, although it is not purely a sex thing; Asian men tend to be somewhat more neotenous than the average white man, just for example (although of course there’s huge variation, it’s not an ironclad rule by any means). But between humans around the world, females are more neotenous than males: they retain smaller stature, less pronounced brow ridges, higher pitched voices, less musculature, less body hair, softer skin, etc. and if you look hard you start to realize that a lot of women’s “beautification” techniques — not all, but a large portion of them — are methods to increase neotenous appearance: getting rid of body and facial hair, softening skin, softening hair, making their eyes look bigger, and so on.

What this appears to my eye to do is to heighten men’s protective instincts toward women, and it also seems to heighten women’s protective instincts toward women. Although there is arguably a biological component to this, I think we live in a time and culture where that nominally healthy instinct has been kicked into overdrive. Women appear to be encouraged to see themselves as potential victims waiting to happen (even though men are statistically more than twice as likely to be the victims of violent assault than women are, and are statistically far more likely to be the victims of sexual assault by females than most people realize) and men as beastly domineering predators and oppressors. I believe both liberals and conservatives are guilty of this impulse, and it’s not healthy for anyone: it infantalizes women and demonizes men, especially when we allow our subconscious impulses to override our rational thought processes. “Wait, she can’t really be dangerous, she’s just a cute girl!”

(And yes, cute girls get away with more than not-so-cute girls, by the way.)

All of it seems to me to be very well encapsulated in the (in my view sexist) phrase “men’s violence toward women,” which is apparently now an acceptable part of political and civil discourse, as the so-called “Violence Against Women Act” goes up for renewal. Factually speaking, women commit the vast majority of violent child abuse, neonaticides, and murder of small children, yet I am virtually certain there would be an avalanche of protest and rage if anyone started campaigns to “end women’s violence against children,” let alone any campaign to end women’s violence against men (which is, again, far more common than most people realize).

I post this in part as an observation in its own right, and also in continuation of a previous discuss on why male victims of sexual assault by females do not report and how I believe this also contributes to a cultural climate of infantalization of women and demonization of men. Feel free to continue to discuss any such related issues here. I think these things do go together.

No matter what they do, men are shamed

What does this cultural narrative of shaming men that my friend Typhon describes above, especially toward men who speak on their own behalf or on behalf of men in general, look like? Here’s a handy guide. Amazingly, every single one of these have been leveled at me throughout my entire life, and in the last year especially I think I’ve gotten every single one in some form or other.

An interesting thing happens when you cease to respond emotionally to any of these common shaming tactics, and decide you just don’t care if people say those things about you anymore. I suppose you could call this “I don’t care what they think” attitude somewhat sociopathic, but it’s remarkably freeing. I get “code blue,” “code green,” and “code lavender” most often from conservative traditionalists. Liberal/leftists, on the other hand, appear particularly fond of “code orange,” “code purple,” “code brown,” and “code black.” Self-described feminists also often seem particularly fond of “code tan,” while “code pink” appears wildly popular with everybody. Every time I get one of these I just smirk, make note of it as confirming that the person has no rational arguments against what I’m saying, and move on with a chuckle.

The only thing I find myself wondering is this: what is the origin of all this shaming of any male who advocates for men and boys without feeling the need to bend to females’ delicate sensibilities, or bend to the dominant mentality of “but we should acknowledge women have always had it worse or at least just as bad” narrative? Is it something innately biological that can’t really be overcome? Or is it mostly cultural, and something that can be overcome by rationality and reason, by making people stop changing the subject and focus for once in their damn lives on boys and men in a positive way, period?

One thing I note: the below brilliant TEDx presentation by Glen Poole disappeared into obscurity very quickly:

…which seems to be what happens to everyone who is kind, thoughtful, and rational about these things. Ignore it, let it disappear into obscurity, possibly slander the person, and otherwise move on to the pressing challenges we face to make the world a better safer place for women and girls. And of course, more shaming of men if we bother bringing them up again.

Every one of the statistics Poole gives in his presentation above are essentially identical in the United States, except the suicide rate for American men is even higher (and it goes to about 10:1 in the wake of divorce by the way). There’s also the 93% of all workplace deaths, the much higher number of male domestic violence victims than most people want to acknowledge, the higher rate of long-term male unemployment, or the much higher male victims of sexual assault than people generally want to acknowledge. Indeed, if you include prison rape, not even counting the other areas where men are all but obliterated from the discussion of sexual victimization, men are raped more often than women–which is the subject of widespread culture humor rather than the gross human rights travesty it is. Leading many of us to conclude that there simply is no point in being nice anymore: not being nice to feminists, not being nice to conservative traditionalists, not being nice to anyone who won’t stand up and start taking these things seriously, and especially refusing to be nice to people who attempt to marginalize, equalize, or change the subject back to women and their problems yet again.

The next time you read yet another article on how young men need to “man up” by some conservative bloviating like a douchebag, a feminist shill talking about the inherent inferiority of males, or just another generalized handwringing wail of bewilderment at the declining state of males, you might want to start to ask yourself, “is there any possibility, perhaps, that we have a cultural attitude that when girls need help we need to bend over backwards to give them everything they need and even everything they want, but that treats struggling, suffering, and in-trouble men and boys like an afterthought or even a nuisance?

I am often told that A Voice for Men, which I am Managing Editor of, is much too harsh in tone and language and that’s why we get so much grief. Because we’re rude and we’re unapologetic about being rude. But I long ago came to the conclusion that if an “eff you” attitude is the only thing that works to get through to the gender ideologues and the powers that be, then, by God, I’m happy to help eff their shit up. And by the way, it does appear to work, since A Voice for Men passed up the #2 feminist web site in the world in early January of this year and looks set to crack the top 50,000 web sites worldwide before the end of the year, despite all the pathetic attempts to paint the site as a “hate site” and even to attempts to censor it by Symantec/Norton and even more pathetic attempts to ban it from University campuses.

Something really seems to get people upset when men and boys openly advocate for themselves without apology, and when people of all sexes and orientations call out misandrist bigots who treat boys and men like garbage, regardless of whether those bigots are male or female, straight or queer, black or what, feminist or anti-feminist.

I have two sons, and they’re growing up in a world that is ever more hostile to them. I’m not taking that lying down. And if you have sons you love, or brothers or boyfriends or fathers or uncles or even just male friends you give a damn about, stop pretending like they’re a auto-privileged class and start looking at them like human beings for God’s sake.

Men’s Human Rights Activism: the radical notion that men are human beings.

Drunk Girl Video Generates Controversy

A recent video has been seen by millions on YouTube recently. The woman is unidentified, and rightly so. However, I’ve been witness to women behaving exactly like this. The scary thing is, had either of the men in this video taken her up on her demands, in many jurisdictions and in many radical feminist eyes they would have been considered guilty of rape.

Indeed, had a camera not been present and she became violently belligerent about it–which any seasoned drunk can tell you she’s at the edge of doing at any moment–and started screaming “rape” then odds are they’d be in jail now.

It appears to me from such things that we refuse to hold women accountable for their behavior while inebriated; a man is accountable for whatever he does while inebriated, and he is also accountable for whatever a woman does while she’s inebriated. Such is the social and legal climate of our times, anyway, with the presumption that women are essentially children in adult bodies, and men are presumed to be dangerous brutes. Many feminists claim to want women treated like adults, yet continue to put forth ludicrous standards which suggests that if a man has sex with a drunk woman, he’s raped her, whereas if a woman has sex with a man who’s drunk he’s merely lucky. (You know, lucky like James Landrith was lucky, huh?)

As I mentioned, I have personally encountered women who behave pretty much exactly like the woman in this video. I did not find anything odd or unusual about the video, I just felt relief for the men who were foolish enough to let her in the car, apparently unaware of just how much danger they were in by doing so.

Does any of this justify harassing or assaulting this woman, either while she’s drunk or later on when she sobers up? No it does not. But it illustrates the preposterous double standards we live under: we hold men accountable for their own behavior while drunk, and we hold men accountable for women’s behavior when women are drunk.

Perhaps we need to stop dumbing down the definition of rape and stop making it so gynocentric. That might be a start, anyway.

Another falsely accused man beaten

Only this time, they beat him to death.

But remember, according to people like Amanda “George Lincoln Rockwell Junior” Marcotte and other gender ideologues at places like Slate and Jezebel, false rape allegations almost never happen, and anyway, even if they do, men it happens to should take it as a learning lesson about the state of women in society. (And don’t even get me started on the whole “rape is only penetration” thing, which my friend Typhon Blue so thoroughly explained is another common cultural lie.)

The woman who falsely accused this man should be named and charged with a crime, although she won’t be because society refuses to hold women accountable for such things. Furthermore, she should be suspected of one of the most prevalent forms of female violence–proxy violence, by which she has men work violence on her behalf.

Said proxy violence also happens to be the case in the vast majority of so-called “honor killings” in the Middle East, by the way, which is another of many of the taboo discussion areas when it comes to violent women.

Manufacturing Female Victimhood, Marginalizing Vulnerable Men

Female Rapists, versus, the Helpless Female and the Demonic Male: One of the more taboo areas in modern culture. My radio co-host Typhon Blue wrote a classic essay on the subject earlier this year, and I have received her permission to reprint it here. I do so with pride.–DE

Toxic victim-consciousness is the process by which women are made into class “acted upon” by emphasizing a disproportionate victimhood where none actually exists or isn’t proven.

In “Women Do Not Benefit: The Science,” I outlined how toxic victimhood limits women and socializes them to undermine their own achievements. Toxic victimhood promotes the perception that women are “acted upon” rather than actors. When a society is promoting toxic victimhood, there is no need to limit women overtly through legal, financial or social restrictions. Instead women will limit themselves through their own mental foot-binding.

Here I will look at a recent and very successful effort to manufacture toxic female victimhood whole-cloth, the CDC’s 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey.

The much publicized figure on rape from this survey is that 1 in 5 women versus 1 in 71 men are victims of rape in their lifetime. (If the rate men are raped is reported on at all.)

Let’s see exactly how the female-as-victim juggernaught churned this nugget out.

Question: When is Rape Not Rape? Answer: When a Rapist Uses Her Vagina

The first thing to note is that the NIPSVS decided that men being forced to have sex with women isn’t rape. Let’s think about this again. The NIPSVS finds that men are the majority perpetrators of rape. 98% of female rape victims and 93% of male rape victims had a male perpetrator. A woman shoving her fingers up a man’s anus is rape, but a woman shoving her vagina down on his penis is not. The latter is not classified as rape, but as “made to penetrate” and is placed in the category of “other sexual violence”.

Logically, if you define rape as penetration, but not envelopment, you are going to end up with an arbitrarily large number of male rapists compared to female rapists.

Rape could easily be redefined as forced envelopment, which is exactly as arbitrary as the NIPSVS’s redefinition of rape. In that case we would find that 80+% of rapists are female. Which is as fatuous a finding as the reverse.

So why are significantly more men than women rapists and significantly more women raped than men? Because when women rape using their vaginas it’s not rape, it’s “other sexual violence”.

Men are the vast majority of rapists and women are the vast majority of victims because rape was defined in such a way to make sure that this was so.

The Real Risk of Rape in the Last Twelve Months

It should be noted the NIPSVS presents no statistics on male victims of rape through penetration for the last 12 months. This is interesting because the 2000 National Violence Against Women Survey found that 0.3 percent of women and 0.1 percent of men surveyed said they were raped via penetration in the previous 12 months.

The NIPSVS says: “The estimates for male victims raped by other types of perpetrators were based upon numbers too small to calculate a reliable estimate and therefore are not reported.”

The NIPSVS surveyed 18,000 people; The NVAWS surveyed 16,000. Did the risk of rape of men by other men take a nose-dive between the NVAW survey and the NIPSVS survey?

Luckily the NIPSVS did track the risk of “made to penetrate” for men in the last year. It was 1.1%, identical to the 1.1% of women “made to envelop”.

If the act of forced envelopment is correctly classified as rape—namely a woman forcing a man to have sex using her vagina, the vagina being one of the two most commonly used instruments of sex—then you get an equal risk of rape between men and women in the last twelve months.

An equal risk of rape between men and women in the last twelve months.

Why then, is the lifetime risk of rape so different?

Men Rape; Women Are Raped

Researchers into the field of traumatic memory recovery note that the longer the period of time a person is asked recall a traumatic event, the less likely they are to remember it. How this works is that surveys that ask about a traumatic event in the last six months get less false negatives than those that ask about a traumatic event in the last twelve months which, itself, gets considerably fewer false negatives than lifetime prevalence.

For men this effect is even more pronounced.

16% of men with documented cases of sexual abuse considered their early childhood experiences sexual abuse, compared with 64% of women with documented cases of sexual abuse. These gender differences may reflect inadequate measurement techniques or an unwillingness on the part of men to disclose this information (Widom and Morris 1997).

Only 16% of men with documented case histories of child sexual abuse disclosed that abuse on a survey intended to capture child sexual abuse. Sixteen percent of men compared to sixty-four percent of women.

That amounts to a disclosure rate of child sexual abuse four times higher in women than in men.

Is it any wonder that the CDC’s 2010 survey (correcting for their mis-categorization of female-on-male rape) found that 18.3% of women and 6.2% of men were victimized over their lifetimes?

Comparing the lifetime rate of sexual abuse for men and women is misleading in determining their relative risk of sexual violence, simply because men disclose childhood sexual abuse four times less often than women.

There may be many reasons for this. It’s unlikely that it’s due to sexual abuse being less impactful on men because studies have shown that sexual abuse does have a profound impact on men, and this includes female-on-male sexual abuse. For instance, the link between sexual abuse and suicide attempts is stronger in boys (Rhodes et al. 2001) and sexually abused boys are twice as likely to commit suicide (Molnar et al. 2001) than sexually abused girls. In addition to that, there is a risk factor for sexually abused men to sexually abuse others is if their abuser was female (Salter et al. 2003.)

One possible reason for men not disclosing, or even “forgetting”, is quite simple: our social narrative does not allow for, nor does it depict, the sexual abuse of males. To a degree it allows for the sexual abuse of boys by men, but not boys by women or adult men by anyone.

In a study on the effects of retention interval and gender on the perception of violence, Ahola et al. (2009) found that eyewitnesses rated female perpetrators less violent than male when reporting after an interval of one to three weeks as opposed to ten minutes. Ahola et al. (2009) proposed that over time eyewitnesses reinterpreted the behavior of perpetrators in order to conform to gender stereotypes regarding violence.

Widom and Morris (1997) propose that a similar process is occurring with male victims of sexual abuse (particularly by females) as, over time, they reinterpret their victimization to conform with the dominant social narrative regarding sexual abuse: that it happens to women and is perpetrated by men. They will do this by reframing their abuse as consensual or as a rite of passage or less violent than it was or by “forgetting” it completely. The more time passes, the more our memories conform to the dominant social narrative.

Gender differences in reporting and in perceptions of early childhood experiences may reflect early socialization experiences in which men learn to view these behaviors as non-predatory and non-abusive. Many of the sexual experiences considered to be sexual abuse (showing/touching sex organs, kissing in a sexual way) may be seen as developmental rites of passage, part of a learning process (Widom and Morris 1997.)

Note that this “forgetting” does not mean that there is no psychological effect; only that the source of that effect is buried, becoming a silent trigger for self-destructive behavior.

The Real Ratio of Male to Female Rapists

If we look at the more reliable statistic, the risk of rape in the last twelve months, and we fix the NIPSVS’s mistake in classifying forced envelopment as “other sexual assault” and not rape, we find that 80% of men report a female rapist and 98% of women report a male rapist. (This estimate is based on the sex of reported perpetrators for sexual assault over a lifetime. There is no reason to think the number of female perpetrators for ‘forced envelopment’ would decline between the lifetime and last year reports: if anything they would increase)

Since there were roughly equal numbers of men(forced to penetrate) and women(forced to envelop) raped in the last year, if we look at a population of 100 rape victims, 50 of which are male and 50 of which are female and apply the statistic that 80% of the male victims were raped by a woman, we get 40 male victims raped by a woman.

That works out to about 40% of rapists being female and 60% being male. A far cry from 95+% of rapists being male.[1]

Instant Female Victimhood, Just Add Media

The cautious and least sensationalistic position to take based on the NIPSVS’s findings is that men and women are most likely at an equal risk of rape and that the proportion of male to female rapists is not significantly gendered. [2]

But this is obviously not what anyone really wants to hear. Instead, the NIPSVS manufactured a non-existant female victimhood by first redefining rape to exclude the vast majority of female-on-male victimization. Then mainstream media (and other parties interested in female victimhood) followed up by selecting the statistic most likely to be fraught with reporting error while completely ignoring the more reliable statistic that suggests parity and further ignoring the ratio of female to male abusers (40/60).[3]

And so from a survey that strongly suggests that neither rape victimization nor rape perpetration is significantly gendered, we get a resounding shout of ‘MEN RAPE/WOMEN ARE RAPED!’

Men act, women are acted upon.

And the juggernaut rumbles on.

References

Ahola A. S., Justice needs a blindfold: Effects of defendants’ gender and attractiveness on judicial evaluation. 2010.

Black M., Basile K. C., Breiding M. J. , Smith S. G. , Walters M. L. , Merrick M. T, Chen J. and Steven M. R., The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey(NIPSVS): 2010 Summary Report , National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, November 2011

Rhodes A. E, Boyle M. H. , Tonmyr L., Wekerle C., Goodman D., Leslie B., Mironova P., Bethell J., and Manion I., Sex Differences in Childhood Sexual Abuse and Suicide-Related Behaviors, Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior 41(3) June 2011

Molnar B. E., Berkman L. F. and Buka S. L., Psychopathology, childhood sexual abuse and other childhood adversities : relative links to subsequent suicidal behaviour in the US, Psychological Medicine, 2001, 31, 965–977.

Salter D., McMillan D., Richards M., Talbot T., Hodges J., Bentovim A., Hastings R., Stevenson J., Skuse D., Development of sexually abusive behaviour in sexually victimized males: a longitudinal study, The Lancet, Vol. 361, February 8, 2003

Tjaden, P. & Thoennes, N. , Findings From the National Violence Against Women Survey(NVAWS), Full Report of the Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, National Institute of Justice, November 2000

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[1] When same-sex rape is excluded the ratio becomes 44/56 male/female rapists. One reason why same-sex rape should be excluded for an accurate picture of the gender proportions of rapists is because male-on-male rape may be inflated relative to female-on-female rape due to the large population of incarcerated and formerly incarcerated men. The greater rate of male-on-male rape may be a byproduct of more men cycling through society’s rape-camps (otherwise known as ‘prisons’) at a greater rate then women.

[2] The moderate skew in favor of male rapists may just be an artifact of using female interviewers. We won’t know for sure until a survey is done that doesn’t require male victims of female aggressors to disclose their victimization to a female interviewer. Likely the NIPSVS used female interviewers preferentially in order to capture as much female victimization as possible; the logic being that women would be more likely to disclose to another woman.

[3] The 80% rate of female perpetration of forced envelopment is based on the lifetime risk numbers. However, it’s likely that the ratio of male to female rapists who forced envelopment on a man does not change significantly between the twelve month and lifetime time frame. If there is any change, asking men to report sexual abuse by females over their lifetime likely undercounts the proportion of female rapists since female-on-male rape is not congruent with our social stereotypes regarding rape and gender. Additional data on this issue is provided by Predictors of Sexual Coercion. Although Predictors only studied college populations, it found a similar parityin rape victimization risk between men and women in the last twelve months. 2.3% of women and 3.0% of men reported forced sex, which gives a ratio of 57/43 female/male rapists.

Originally published on Typhon’s web site Genderratic. I also recommend her YouTube channel, Genderratic’s Curio Emporium.